Perfect Poise, Perfect Life
Bring your body into balance and revolutionise your life
By Noel Kingsley
Publisher Hodder Mobius
AVAILABLE HERE
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Moving away
Someone was telling me yesterday that they are thinking about moving away to a new area; that they are not happy and feel that a change would be good for them. Indeed they are thinking of moving right across country. It is none of my business why they may feel like such a complete change to their life, but I did wonder at the motives and told my own story of when I really felt the need for a similar move.
When I was19 years old (in the 60's), living in Glasgow, Scotland, I got it into my head that I'd go to the US and live there. I bought US papers to see what jobs I could do. I'd never been to the US but had seen New York and other cities and countryside in films and television. Such was my limited experience and it seemed a great place to go. Why I wanted to leave Glasgow, I don't know except that I felt I might do better and be happier across the Atlantic.
Naturally my parents were worried about my wild notion. One day my Dad said to me, "when you arrive in the US Noel, you will still have with you the thing that you're running away from. That's yourself." I thought about that and decided he was right and eventually dropped the idea of emigrating and to stay in Glasgow. It didn't make much sense to go so far, change so much when the thing that was causing me so much unhappiness was myself. So I decided to change myself instead and start appreciating what I had already. Nothing against the US (It's a great place as I eventually discovered when I did go many years later), but now I'm glad I stayed and looked at myself a little more realistically and made more of myself instead of putting it onto external things, my location. and blaming everything else. I now thank my Dad for helping me deal with the real issue. Now I'm pretty much happy anywhere. It comes from inside.
I'm sure where my friend is thinking of going is lovely. Indeed there are thousands of wonderful places we can go that are very nice, But only if we're feeling nice inside. And if we are feeling nice inside anyway, there's really no need to go. We do not need to move away, to move on. :-)
